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John, I disagree with that statement.
The words that make up any language are symbols. They are much more often used to support a persona that reveals not who we are, but who we would like to be perceived as. It is our emotions, not our symbols that reveal who we are---whether the symbol is a word, an automobile, or a pinky ring.
Hey Gary,
Here is a message I sent Jeff regarding a similar issue.
Everything that has a name is a symbol. That begins the journey.
You are right that one part of us communicates: "but who we would like to be perceived as." But this is only half of the story as said below.
The Authentic virtues always trumps emotions even when it permits us to be irrational.
Synthetic Identity (socially based persona)
You are very different than when when you were 20 years old.
That is easy to grasp: we all change by learning, engaging in relationships and having a variety of experiences that contribute to our over all maturation over time. However, these changes are tethered to a fundamental identity we want displayed to the public as a Synthetic Identity.
Without this flexible capacity we could not meet the unforeseeable challenges in daily life as we mature in time.
Authentic Identity (personally based virtue)
You are no different than when you were 20 years old.
This is also easy to grasp: we all have a sense of self that never changes through time; it is a consistent way of being that enables us to have relationships with others; friends, wives and husbands, can rely on our stable internal drive. How else could we hold a job if everyday you were completely someone else with different wants and desires?
Without this stable perspective, we could never complete a goal or even decide on any one profession--we would always be changing.
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We all feel these two aspects of ourselves.
We look in the mirror and wonder how we got so old because we can recall the feeling of being a teenager. That is why, "the more things change the more they stay the same."
We are all driven by this single drive which is to express our Authentic Identity. And it is this Identity that constantly needs validation, verification and purpose, all done through conforming symbols of meaning.
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So, in your house there are "things" (symbols of meaning) that conforms to your unique Authentic Identity.
This expression is saying; I am alive; I have value; I matter; and I make a difference.
In fact, SalesPractice is one of many symbols that conform to your Authentic Identity. If it did not--you would not be here.
There is much more to this. In fact, I offer seminars on learning how to "read" the conforming symbols of their clients to find their Authentic motivation.
It is complex and this is a brief explanation. If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to ask. -John Voris
I often suspect, though, that many business owners do not know their business as well as they should.
That creates an obstacle for the salesperson. It would be fatal to convey that even if it is apparent. We need common ground to get the prospect moving forward in his/her thinking. A good selling process founded on engagement, mutual trust and respect, and sincere intent, can produce not only that common ground, but broaden the prospect's perspective and transcend natural and common resistance. -Ace Coldiron