Fear of Success

Self Improvement - Personal Development Forum

 #11
Gary Boye

Quote:
Originally Posted by AZBroker
What does fear of success mean to you Gary?
It means nothing to me.

 #12
MitchM
what it means

Hey Gary - I love such a concise answer. Over the years I've heard fear of success and fear of failure so much I began to believe I had to have either or both - everyone said one or the other or both kept people from getting some kind of success.

Then one day I realized I had neigher of them - I was who I was, I did what I did, and if I had any fear it was the fear of stopping my search for new interests, insights, challenges and things to throw myself in - in other words, the fear of dying without ever living fully the best of my ability.

Once I understood my fear - no more fear - just live.

There's a long answer.

MitchM

 #13
Agent Smith
Change and Consequences

Fear of success (what will happen if I succeed?) holds many people back from achieving their goals. I would agree with Masteri5 that more people are held back by fear of success than fear of failure.

 #14
Gary Boye
Raise your hand.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Agent Smith
Fear of success (what will happen if I succeed?) holds many people back from achieving their goals. I would agree with Masteri5 that more people are held back by fear of success than fear of failure.
Even if that were true, how would that differ from "what would happen if I failed?"

People might fear the perceived "price" of success which often conflicts with their underlying commitments, but success itself...I doubt that very much.

Maybe someone who is a member here will come forth and support yours and Master15's view by telling us that he/she is being held back by fear of success.

 #15
Agent Smith

Quote:
Originally Posted by Gary Boye
Even if that were true, how would that differ from "what would happen if I failed?"
Fear of success (what will happen if I succeed?) is not the same as fear of failure (what will happen if I fail?)

Fear of failure and fear of success are not uncommon roadblocks Gary. Are you at all familiar with these concepts?

 #16
Masteri5

To All

Good, healthy debate. Makes the world go 'round.

Fear of success takes more than one form. For instance...some people move out of their comfort zone. Perhaps it is in the amount of money or the number of sales. Their fear is they cannot duplicate the results on an ongoing basis and are labeled "flash in the pan"...someone with "beginner's luck"...or they take home a very large paycheck and now "its expected every time".

The sustainability of sales performance and achievement comes at a high price. A price that some, once having tasted the fruit, simply refuse to duplicate.

It is no secret that we receive lots of conditioning during our formative years. What we sometimes forget is we have formative years during our sales career. Little comments like..."Who does he/she think they are...they can't keep that up." How about..."He/she gets all the house deals"..."He/she gets all the referrals from the manager/owner?" Very few of us are willing to be labeled different, again part of conditioning. I made this comment in another thread and will repeat it here...

We pay actors and athletes millions (this is not an argument for or against the amount of money) simply because THEY ARE WILLING TO RISK FAILURE IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE WORLD. How many salespeople are willing to risk failure in front of a group as small as their peers, family and friends? Just some food for thought.

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 #17
Agent Smith

Excellent post Masteri5.

 #18
MitchM
High Price

"The sustainability of sales performance and achievement comes at a high price. A price that some, once having tasted the fruit, simply refuse to duplicate." -- Masteri5

This is something that interests me greatly - two questions:

1. Does the sustainability of sales performance and achievement have to come at a high price? Is that a fact or law?

2. If that is is fact or law what is the "high price?"

MitchM

 #19
Masteri5

MitchM

Fact or law? Not sure it is for me to decide for everyone but I think it's fact. There are no easy ways to achieve sales success. The reason salespeople see frequent peaks and valleys is because they subject themselves to the whims of markets. For instance, auto salespeople, since I have spent over 20 years in this field, often complain that business is slow because foot traffic counts drop. Interesting how people who prospect daily, follow up with customers and use the telephone effectively never seem to experience the same slow down.

As for the high price issue itself. Yes, a high price is part of the payment. Payments made in terms of time invested, education, doing what ought to be done as opposed to what you would rather be doing, etc. How about the price our families pay from time to time when we miss dinner or a ball game because we are in the middle of making a sale. The payment here is time lost with loved ones. They sometimes interpret that differently than we do. We know it's because our efforts afford our families a great lifestyle that others will never have. They sometimes only see us as selfish and interested in what WE do.

This really has nothing to do with this discussion but I would like to add an additional comment about your family...they are the most important thing. Help them understand that what you do and the time commitment you make is for the benefit of all and the price they pay is sometimes they won't see you as often as they wish.

 #20
AZBroker

You display great insight Masteri5. Where were you when I was starting out?

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