How to Win Friends and Influence People

Wikipedia has a summary for the Dale Carnegie book called How to Win Friends and Influence People.


Do you think these technqiues are too old fashioned or manipulative or do they still hold water?


This is the page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_...fluence_People

This is the summary.

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People:

• "Don't criticize, condemn or complain."
• "Give people a feeling of importance; praise the good parts of them."
• "Get the other person to want to do what you want them to by arousing their desires."

• "Become genuinely interested in other people."
• "Smile."
• "Remember that a man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
• "Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves."
• "Talk in the terms of the other man's interest."
• "Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely."

• "Avoid arguments."
• "Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong."
• "If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically."
• "Begin in a friendly way."
• "Start with questions the other person will answer yes to."
• "Let the other person do the talking."
• "Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers."
• "Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view."
• "Sympathize with the other person."
• "Appeal to noble motives."
• "Dramatize your ideas."
• "Throw down a challenge."

• "Begin with praise and honest appreciation."
• "Call attention to other people's mistakes indirectly."
• "Talk about your own mistakes first."
• "Ask questions instead of giving direct orders."
• "Let the other person save face."
• "Praise every improvement."
• "Give them a fine reputation to live up to."
• "Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct."
• "Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest."