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How to Improve Conversational Skills

Do you generally find it easy to converse with others?

For many, the very thought of engaging in conversation, especially with someone they do not know, causes anxiety. Such people may be shy. They may wonder: ‘What should I talk about? How can I get the discussion started? How can I keep it going?’ Confident, outgoing people may tend to dominate a conversation. Their challenge may be to draw others out and to learn to listen to what is said. So all of us, whether shy or outgoing, need to keep cultivating the art of conversation.

What do you think?
- by Snowboy
The type of conversational skills you seem to be referring to are important in many social situations. They are also important in group dynamics, such as in meetings. They are not crucial to sales success.

A structured, linear sales process is far more effective than the ability to converse confidently. Of course, is not an either/or scenario. It is better to do both well. - by JacquesWerth
The type of conversational skills you seem to be referring to are important in many social situations. They are also important in group dynamics, such as in meetings. They are not crucial to sales success.

A structured, linear sales process is far more effective than the ability to converse confidently. Of course, is not an either/or scenario. It is better to do both well.
Well said, I agree. However in my industry I don't really require to "sell" other then myself. Therefore my type of conversational skill would be that of a group dynamic - Business Networking. Therefore it is cruicial to my sales success. - by Snowboy
Well said, I agree. However in my industry I don't really require to "sell" other then myself. Therefore my type of conversational skill would be that of a group dynamic - Business Networking. Therefore it is cruicial to my sales success.
What industry are you in?
What is the product and/or service you sell? - by JacquesWerth
I am in Broad Casting - I sell solutions to the client rather then the product. However the product is TV. Being the District Manager I attend functions and networking bases in order to establish a relationship with the local and broader clientelle. In doing so ensuring a continual future with the client.

You? - by Snowboy
Well said, I agree. However in my industry I don't really require to "sell" other then myself. Therefore my type of conversational skill would be that of a group dynamic - Business Networking. Therefore it is cruicial to my sales success.
I think I agree with you Snowboy. - by Gunner
I think I agree with you Snowboy.
I second that Gunner - by EmmaC
There are a few simple rules you can follow to help you
become a better listener, therefore enhancing your
conversation skills.

1. Stop talking.

It sounds very simplistic but if you are constantly
talking, how can others express themselves? Make an effort
to shift the focus of the conversation to the other person.

There is more to conversation skills than talking...

Be aware of your own body language. Match the other
person's body language by leaning forward when they lean
forward, etc.

Attention to small details will give the person you are
speaking with a feeling that you truly hear what they are
saying and that you are genuinely interested in their
opinions. This is a secret of good conversation skills.


2. Pay attention to the tone of your voice.

Even if you are only giving brief answers or asking short
questions, the tone of your voice plays a major part in
communicating effectively and displaying good conversation
skills.

If your tone suggests a condescending attitude, boredom, or
anger, you will lose your audience and people will no
longer want to spend time speaking with you or listening to
what you have to say.

Superior conversation skills are based on mutual respect.

A respectful, preferably friendly tone will allow you to
communicate efficiently and earn you the respect of others.

3. In order to move the conversation forward, ask questions
to clarify or invite additional information.

Questions indicate that you are fully attentive to what is
being said and that you have a real interest in the speaker's
views.

Give your full attention to the speaker. When you show
others that you want to hear them, they will automatically
grant you the same courtesy. Do this and your conversation
skills will improve.

4. Engage in light, pleasant conversation as often as you
engage in meaningful, direct conversation.

If you always guide the conversation in the direction of
achieving your goal, you will leave the impression of
distance and a superior attitude. This is not a hallmark of
great conversation skills.

People want to feel appreciated and unique. Make a point to
address each person you encounter and do so in a positive,
friendly manner. Conversation skills include treating
others as you would like to be treated.

Good conversation skills include much more than simply
speaking with others. Listening, good body language,
questioning, pleasantries, and mutual respect are important
elements in any conversation and are also personality
traits exhibited by successful people. - by Salecanon
If you're attending networking functions, spend some time to develop a compelling 60 second business commerical or elevator speech.
I have some questions I recommend to coaching clients.
If you'd like to see them, please pm me.

Susan - by susana
I am in Broad Casting - I sell solutions to the client rather then the product. However the product is TV. Being the District Manager I attend functions and networking bases in order to establish a relationship with the local and broader clientelle. In doing so ensuring a continual future with the client.
Your product is not TV.
Your product is access to an audience of a specific size, with a list of demographics that are unique to your station.

If you know your audience and your current advertisers, you will have a lot of information to discuss with potential advertisers. Learning that, is how you should be spending your time. - by JacquesWerth
There are a few simple rules you can follow to help you
become a better listener, therefore enhancing your
conversation skills.

1. Stop talking.

It sounds very simplistic but if you are constantly
talking, how can others express themselves? Make an effort
to shift the focus of the conversation to the other person.

There is more to conversation skills than talking...

Be aware of your own body language. Match the other
person's body language by leaning forward when they lean
forward, etc.

Attention to small details will give the person you are
speaking with a feeling that you truly hear what they are
saying and that you are genuinely interested in their
opinions. This is a secret of good conversation skills.


2. Pay attention to the tone of your voice.

Even if you are only giving brief answers or asking short
questions, the tone of your voice plays a major part in
communicating effectively and displaying good conversation
skills.

If your tone suggests a condescending attitude, boredom, or
anger, you will lose your audience and people will no
longer want to spend time speaking with you or listening to
what you have to say.

Superior conversation skills are based on mutual respect.

A respectful, preferably friendly tone will allow you to
communicate efficiently and earn you the respect of others.

3. In order to move the conversation forward, ask questions
to clarify or invite additional information.

Questions indicate that you are fully attentive to what is
being said and that you have a real interest in the speaker's
views.

Give your full attention to the speaker. When you show
others that you want to hear them, they will automatically
grant you the same courtesy. Do this and your conversation
skills will improve.

4. Engage in light, pleasant conversation as often as you
engage in meaningful, direct conversation.

If you always guide the conversation in the direction of
achieving your goal, you will leave the impression of
distance and a superior attitude. This is not a hallmark of
great conversation skills.

People want to feel appreciated and unique. Make a point to
address each person you encounter and do so in a positive,
friendly manner. Conversation skills include treating
others as you would like to be treated.

Good conversation skills include much more than simply
speaking with others. Listening, good body language,
questioning, pleasantries, and mutual respect are important
elements in any conversation and are also personality
traits exhibited by successful people.
WOW,
That's pretty enlightening Salecanon - by EmmaC
I think I agree with you Snowboy.
Cheers Gunner - by Snowboy
There are a few simple rules you can follow to help you
become a better listener, therefore enhancing your
conversation skills.

1. Stop talking.

It sounds very simplistic but if you are constantly
talking, how can others express themselves? Make an effort
to shift the focus of the conversation to the other person.

There is more to conversation skills than talking...

Be aware of your own body language. Match the other
person's body language by leaning forward when they lean
forward, etc.

Attention to small details will give the person you are
speaking with a feeling that you truly hear what they are
saying and that you are genuinely interested in their
opinions. This is a secret of good conversation skills.


2. Pay attention to the tone of your voice.

Even if you are only giving brief answers or asking short
questions, the tone of your voice plays a major part in
communicating effectively and displaying good conversation
skills.

If your tone suggests a condescending attitude, boredom, or
anger, you will lose your audience and people will no
longer want to spend time speaking with you or listening to
what you have to say.

Superior conversation skills are based on mutual respect.

A respectful, preferably friendly tone will allow you to
communicate efficiently and earn you the respect of others.

3. In order to move the conversation forward, ask questions
to clarify or invite additional information.

Questions indicate that you are fully attentive to what is
being said and that you have a real interest in the speaker's
views.

Give your full attention to the speaker. When you show
others that you want to hear them, they will automatically
grant you the same courtesy. Do this and your conversation
skills will improve.

4. Engage in light, pleasant conversation as often as you
engage in meaningful, direct conversation.

If you always guide the conversation in the direction of
achieving your goal, you will leave the impression of
distance and a superior attitude. This is not a hallmark of
great conversation skills.

People want to feel appreciated and unique. Make a point to
address each person you encounter and do so in a positive,
friendly manner. Conversation skills include treating
others as you would like to be treated.

Good conversation skills include much more than simply
speaking with others. Listening, good body language,
questioning, pleasantries, and mutual respect are important
elements in any conversation and are also personality
traits exhibited by successful people.
Thank you for your comments Salecanon - Very valued - by Snowboy
If you're attending networking functions, spend some time to develop a compelling 60 second business commerical or elevator speech.
I have some questions I recommend to coaching clients.
If you'd like to see them, please pm me.

Susan
Thanks for your input on this susana - by Snowboy
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