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How to have self confidence in meeting people (taking proactive actions like visiting their home, office, parties, etc.) and asking people to take out a life insurance policy. Please share your ideas, tips, and techniques. - by dennis27
The biggest help for me in the self-confidence department is forcing myself to get out and meet people and then once I'm on a roll not letting that momentum slip. - by Thomas
How to have self confidence in meeting people (taking proactive actions like visiting their home, office, parties, etc.) and asking people to take out a life insurance policy. Please share your ideas, tips, and techniques.

Hi Dennis

I notice you have posted this before in another section.

Ask yourself the question is this the area you want to sell in?

Or is there something else that excites you more.

There is nothing worse than being "afraid" each morning when you wake up about talking to customers. - by SalesManagersCoach
Fear of the Unknown.

Research has shown this is the number one cause of fear. There is no way to remove it other than experience, however, preparation is a big key.

Preparation includes a number of elements;

(1) Training - does your company coach you?

(2) Practice - speak your approaches and scripts out loud. Learn them until you do not need to read them any longer.

(3) Research about each prospect.

... hope this helps.

You could try watching The Secret about twenty times too! - by Gold Calling
Make a list of what gives you confidence! Yes, everything. (Getting a referral, a happy customer/client, someone who pays for lunch). Notice if they are external events that give you confidence. Notice if there is anything that you personnally do for yourself that gives you confidence, i.e. committing to meeting ten (10) new people a day and actually doing it, keeping your car nice and clean, putting on a fresh, new pressed shirt.

What kind of confidence habits can you do every day? For example, if physical exercise gives you confidence -- maybe that is a habit -- Smiling at people can be a confidence habit!

Then make a list of what interferes with your confidence i.e., being disorganized, looking at the stock market 20 times a day, watching internet news . . .

What small improvements can you make that will have the biggest impact on your confidence? Recommend that you go find a homeless person and give them $20 or a bottle or water and an brand new pair of socks. Something like that! Your confidence will soar!sn;

Develop an action plan to build your confidence. Stop things that interfere with your confidence and start doing things that give you confidence. - by Connie Kadansky
Wow!

Its good to see so many people taking initiative and giving us a good info on self confidence. Thank you every one for sharing this useful information.

Self-confidence is about believing in and liking yourself. It is being optimistic, assertive, taking personal responsibility, and being at ease with other people. Confidence to do a work generally means strong feeling from the inner part of your heart and mind that you can do that work easily. Some very important tips to build your confidence level automatically and things you need to do, to build a better personality.

This is a very simple step which a lot of us do not know. You will be surprised by the vast number of people who go about their lives not knowing what they want. So what do you want to achieve? Dream Big Dreams. Many great successes and achievements in life started from a dream. Write what you want down on paper. Construct a plan, detailing how you can turn your dreams into realities. Set goals and use them as your milestones. - by RobertWilliams
20 ways to increase your confidence


20 quick and practical methods to increase your confidence, here we go:
1.Think about someone who is confident and act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behavior. It works for them; it will work for you.

2.Smile a lot more. That doesn’t mean putting a silly grin on your face! But smile when you walk down the street, when you meet people and generally be happier even if you’re not feeling that way.

3.Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time.

4.Buy yourself some new clothes, get your hair done, and treat yourself to something new. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost.

5.Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it.

6.Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities at every opportunity – because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence.

7.Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time.

8.Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Just watch the reaction on their face after you’ve said it the first time and there will be no going back.

9.Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.

10.Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.

11.Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in the grand scheme of things. A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!


12.Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the way you think.

13.List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.

14.At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.

15.Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out?

16.Every morning when you’re in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so.

17.Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change you body language

18.Emotion is created by motion. As in 17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body – it makes you feel better and more confident.

19.Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are.

20.And finally – You only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years time – will what I am worrying about really matter?
- by The Dynamic Business
Dennis
I am going to go in a different direction. This will help you gain confidence and help with installing order with all your phases of your presentation.

Join your local Toastmasters group.This group encourages you to develop. Thery teach you how to use and choose your words. How to stand and use body and facial expressions. They teach you how to prepare your presentation. They teach you how to effectively pause and improve your speech and vocabulary.

The education given to you by this group can not be measured.Each person helps you by giving you gifts to help improve your speaking ability that affects everything we do in the sales profession. Conquer the fear of being in front of people and able to communicate effectively.Build your confidence while overcoming the fears that are normal.

Best of luck and allow your accomplishments to grow. - by rich34232
SMILE

BE SINCERE

TAKE THE FIRST STEP

(You could add have a positive mental attitude) before take the first the step.

Aloha.... shds; ;bg - by rattus58
Dennis
I am going to go in a different direction. This will help you gain confidence and help with installing order with all your phases of your presentation.

Join your local Toastmasters group.This group encourages you to develop. Thery teach you how to use and choose your words. How to stand and use body and facial expressions. They teach you how to prepare your presentation. They teach you how to effectively pause and improve your speech and vocabulary.

The education given to you by this group can not be measured.Each person helps you by giving you gifts to help improve your speaking ability that affects everything we do in the sales profession. Conquer the fear of being in front of people and able to communicate effectively.Build your confidence while overcoming the fears that are normal.

Best of luck and allow your accomplishments to grow.
Rich this is a great idea. I also highly recommend Toastmasters! I have seen amazing results through so many members! - by The Dynamic Business
1. Understand that you provide a solution to a major problem everyone faces....

2. Your intent is to be helpful....

3. Remember, some will, some won't, so what.... next.


Three simple thoughts to boost your self confidence.... - by jdedwa11
Be alert and relaxed. Model those who who are alert and relaxed.

You will see those two traits in masters of every category, and that includes life itself. - by Ace Coldiron
To have self confidence, as has been stated, you MUST have self belief. Not only belief that you can succeed, but belief that you will achieve your dream or your purpose.

In Lesson 2 of "10 Life Lessons on How to Find Your Why NOW..."
by John Di Lemme he speaks of commitment and says it is "hammer hard determination to achieve."

Commitment and focus will add up to belief. Build these traits, learn the mechanics of your sales field, and you will succeed over the long haul. - by Ed Gilbert
20 ways to increase your confidence
What a great list! Thanks for posting, I will be using this regularly to evaluate myself in my business for ways to improve.thmbp2;

Lisa - by lisamom
Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be overtrained or over skilled for any challenge in life. - by MatthewFerry
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